You MUST start with an empty bowl.
This is the most important step in baking your cake.
If there is anything already in your bowl, it can and WILL effect the cake.
It can cause it to be bitter, or sour or flat.
“What might already be in the bowl?” you may ask.
The answer: Any number of things.
People, things, places, etc… ANY thing that brings negativity.
It could be a person who has hurt you, a place that holds bad memories, a song that you associate with a negative experience, an item that you own.
Whatever it is. Discard it.
Throw it in the garbage.
Empty your bowl.
Set boundaries for the people who hurt you. No matter what, do not allow them to cross those boundaries. Stand strong and fight for your boundaries.
Do NOT go to those places that hold bad memories.
The only exception to this rule is, work. You have to go to work.
There is no other place that you HAVE. TO GO that can’t be worked around.
Go into your itunes, amazon music, pandora accounts…whatever music services you use, delete ALL music that doesn’t make you smile or sing along, or create a positive emotion.
Delete anything negative. Just get rid of it. Toss out the CD, delete the songs on your SD card or phone hard drive. If the song comes on the radio, CHANGE THE STATION!!!
Items that make you sad, bring a feeling of negativity should go in the trash can, or be given away. No its, and or buts. Stuff is just stuff. if your stuff has negative emotions attached to them, you can’t simply wash it off.
Get rid of that stuff.
These steps can’t be accomplished instantly, but you can complete then in a relatively short time
if you are firm and strict with yourself.
When you are finished with these steps, you will have an empty bowl.
When you have an empty bowl, you are ready to move on the the next step.
Check back for Step 2.