Celebration of life…Robin Williams


I was sitting on the sofa reading and cuddling under a soft blanket when I heard my husband, who was scanning the internet, say…”Robin Williams Died”.


Prior to hearing the details of his death and the circumstances, I had a little time to reflect on this information. Here was what I came up with.

My Dear Robin,

OH……oh, how you have made me laugh. How many times, how many places!
It started with “Mork” from “Ork” and those rainbow suspenders. Your naive character from another land cracked up the 7 year old me, over and over.

Then, the world according to Garp, which I wasn’t allowed to watch, yet I watched the entire thing from between the bars at the top pf our stairs that overlooked the living room. I didn’t understand it all until years later. Yet still. I can clearly recall literally biting my tongue to stop myself from laughing even that night!

Goooooooooooooooooooooooood Moooooooooooooooooooooooorning Vietnaaaaaaaaaaaaam!
Adrian Cronauer: Excuse me, sir. Seeing as how the V.P. is such a V.I.P., shouldn’t we keep the P.C. on the Q.T.? ‘Cause if it leaks to the V.C. he could end up M.I.A., and then we’d all be put out in K.P.
(Enough said)

Dead Poets Society: Dark, and even a bit disturbing, but what a way to show the depth of your talent and the ability to bring a character to life. I didn’t laugh…oh no…but I did, cry.

Awakenings: Another slightly serious film, yet it certainly had its humorous moments, mostly when the patients that had been comatose for decades suddenly woke up and began living! Then there was the budding romance between Dr. Sayer and nurse Costello.

Hook: A movie i didn’t see until I was a mother, and my sweet little boy picked it up from the shelf in Blockbuster one day. I think over the years we watched it well over 100 times! I love it.

Aladdin: The Genie! GENIUS!
“Yo, Rugman! Haven’t seen you in a few millennia. Give me some tassel.”

MRS. DOUBTFIRE: Who else but THE Robin Williams could pull off the role of a middle aged father AND the role of a 60 year old British woman all at once?

Jumanji: Outstanding Movie!

The Bird Cage: You always played or faked a gay man well, this odd eccentric movie was no exception although most of the true funny quotes went to Nathan Lane, I laughed NONETHELESS!

Good Will Hunting: While the film’s plot was fairly predictable, this movie was nothing short of beautiful.

Robots, RV, Night at the Museum, Happy Feet, Old Dogs round up the films I have seen that you were a part of, and i enjoyed every single one!

I’m saddened by the loss of this man.

But, life will go on, for me, for us. We will continue to laugh and cry when watching your films.

You had, and shared with us, such an incredible talent.

Rest in peace Robin McLaurin Williams, and thank you.

Life’s Little Rules


We all have a different set of rules that govern our lives…what works for one doesnt work for another, my rules may not fit your lifestyle and vice versa. It’s important though that we know OUR set of rules.

Having a set of rules helps you keep YOU in check, and it helps you keep your boundaries and your sanity in place.

If you don’t have a set of rules, there’s no time like the present to get started on one.

Personally, I just started mine earlier this year. I’m kind of a late bloomer, I don’t always do the things I should WHEN i should. BUT, I firmly believe in that “better late than never” statute.

I imagine that over time, I will add rules to this list, and it will grow.

For now, its a good thing that i keep it simple. Especially considering how rule #1 is “keep it simple”. lol

So. Here she is, my short list of rules, yup, thats right I’m sharing it with you all.

I’d love to hear your feedback and have you tell me about your rules as well! :)

Interview of skepticism…


This year has been difficult, things happened that made me question people at the deepest level of humanity.  I came to the point where I trusted zero people.  No one.  Not a single, solitary person.
Then,  thankfully,  I met someone who helped me begin to “restore” my hope and faith in people.
It’s not an easy process.  I still don’t and won’t trust most.

I see the situation like a metaphorical door,  of which I am the sole door keeper.  When someone approaches the door…I decide if they will be granted access.
Most people are turned away without even a word.  But every now and then,  I meet someone who is granted an “interview”. They probably don’t realize that they are being interviewed.  If they pass the interview,  they move on to the test phase. That’s right,  they are tested. Most don’t make it past this stage.  But on the rare occasion that someone does.  They are “in”.

Lol….. Yes,  lol, because I am literally laughing out loud at myself as I write these words and realize how egocentric and self centered I sound.  After all, my blog is called JOYFUL girl? Right? But the truth is, this technique is actually helping me find my JOY, because it is giving my heart the chance it needs to heal so that I can one day, trust openly again. Is it shameful to live this way? Shielding ones heart from hurt and pain.  Impervious,  guarded?  Maybe it would be; WILL BE, if it becomes a long term problem.  But for now,  I think it’s just fine.  It’s just what should be happening.  Hopefully,  one day,  I will learn to trust people again.  I’m really hoping that the people I select,  the people I “let in” will give me a reason to do just that.

Tiffany and Linkin…best friends???

When I decided to move back into the house with my husband and work on reconciling our marriage, I had a lot of things to consider and a few worries.  One of which was…how would my evil little kitten, Tiffany, get along with the boys exuberant and energetic dog, Linkin. 
The first few days they were together,  Tiff wouldn’t even come out from under the sofa.  Eventually she came out and began baring claws and jumping up on tables whenever Linkin approached.  Continue reading

Hello World!


Hello world… It’s me…Joy.
I’m a girl, a wife,  a mom.  I live with my husband John, (we’ve been married for seventeen years) and my teenage son Jake. 
My marriage hasn’t always been awesome.  We were separated for two years…but we decided to try to make it work in the end. So…here I am,  trying to put the pieces back together.  Life is a journey.  Who knows where it will take us? The possibilities really ARE endless!  I hope you’ll share your journey with me while I share mine with you.  :)